Masturbating Before Bed

Reviewed by  Maria Maureen Ablen, MD
Written by  Maria Maureen Ablen, MD
Published 05/21/2025

For many Filipinos, nighttime routines often include skincare, brushing teeth, or binge-watching on Netflix. But there’s another habit that’s more common than you might think: masturbating before bed. While it might not be dinner table conversation, it's a natural part of human behavior—especially for people managing stress, low libido, or trouble sleeping.

In this blog, we’ll explore why people masturbate before sleeping, whether it’s good or bad for you, and how it affects things like sleep quality, hormones, and relationships. We’ll also debunk myths and offer science-backed advice tailored to the Filipino lifestyle.

Why Do People Masturbate Before Sleeping?

Masturbation is a common way to unwind. It provides physical pleasure, releases tension, and activates parts of the brain that promote relaxation. For men and women alike, it’s often used as a natural sleep aid.

Some of the main reasons people do it before bed include:

  • Stress relief: Masturbation lowers cortisol, the stress hormone. Studies have shown that engaging in this activity can significantly decrease feelings of stress and anxiety.

  • Improved sleep: Orgasms trigger the release of prolactin, which can help you fall asleep faster. This process is supported by numerous experts in the field who highlight the link between sexual satisfaction and better sleep.

  • Hormonal balance: Masturbation can temporarily reduce testosterone levels, releasing endorphins and promoting a sense of well-being.

  • Routine: For some, it’s simply part of their wind-down habit.

A study published in the Medical News Today found that people who masturbated before bed reported improved sleep quality, reduced anxiety, and a better overall mood. These findings align with information shared by Healthline, which notes that masturbation can improve sexual confidence and intimacy with a partner.

Is Masturbating Before Bed Healthy?

In general, yes. As long as it doesn’t interfere with your daily life or relationships, masturbation is considered a normal and healthy activity. It’s even been linked to several health benefits:

Physical Benefits

Mental Health Benefits

  • Reduces anxiety and improves mood

  • Promotes better body awareness and self-esteem

  • Can help manage depression and insomnia

For Filipino men dealing with long workdays, family stress, or traffic-related fatigue, masturbating before bed can offer a simple form of relief without side effects. It can also contribute to improving your testosterone levels, which play a crucial role in overall health.

Can It Affect Your Sleep Cycle?

Yes, and usually in a good way. After orgasm, your body releases several hormones:

  • Prolactin, which promotes feelings of satisfaction and drowsiness

  • Oxytocin, the bonding hormone that reduces stress

  • Dopamine, which boosts mood

These effects can make it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep. A study from Frontiers in Psychology found that people who masturbated before bed fell asleep faster and reported higher sleep satisfaction. However, too much reliance on masturbation as a sleep crutch might backfire. If you feel like you can’t fall asleep without it, that could be a sign of compulsive behavior.

How Often Is Too Often?

There’s no magic number. Masturbation frequency varies by person, age, and hormone levels. Some people do it daily, others a few times a week. It only becomes a problem if:

  • It interferes with work or relationships

  • You use it to avoid emotional or psychological issues

  • You feel shame or guilt afterward

A study from the Journal of Zhejiang University found that abstaining from ejaculation for three days increased testosterone slightly, but levels returned to normal after that. Regular ejaculation—whether through masturbation or sex—doesn’t cause long-term drops in testosterone levels. Factors like sleep, exercise, and stress have a much bigger impact on testosterone.

Can It Affect Your Relationship?

It depends. Some people worry that masturbating before bed will reduce their desire for their partner. But in healthy relationships, masturbation and partnered sex often complement each other.

In fact, it can:

  • Help you understand what feels good, improving communication with your partner

  • Relieve sexual tension when one partner isn’t in the mood

  • Reduce performance anxiety by taking pressure off the act itself

Communication is key to any successful relationship. Discussing masturbation with your partner would be a good step in the right direction towards a healthier relationship while also getting a better understanding of what works, and doesn’t work, for both you and your partner.

Common Filipino Myths About Masturbating Before Bed

"It makes you weak."

False. There’s no evidence that masturbation weakens your body. In fact, it can improve sleep and muscle recovery.

"You’ll lose interest in real sex."

Also false. Studies show that masturbation doesn’t reduce sexual desire—it can even increase it by keeping your libido healthy.

"It’s sinful or shameful."

Cultural views in the Philippines often label masturbation as taboo. But from a medical standpoint, it’s a normal part of sexual health. 

Tips for a Healthier Nighttime Routine

If you choose to include masturbation in your bedtime habits, here are a few tips:

  • Stay clean: Wash hands and any toys before and after use.

  • Mind the environment: Create a private, comfortable space where you can relax.

  • Don’t rely on it: Pair with other healthy bedtime routines like reading, meditation, or stretching.

  • Keep it balanced: Ensure it doesn’t replace intimacy with your partner, as mutual connection is essential.

If masturbation feels compulsive, is accompanied by guilt, or disrupts your daily life, it might be time to consult a mental health expert. Issues like performance anxiety, low libido, or delayed ejaculation can often be improved with the right support. Mental health stigma remains strong in the Philippines, but seeking help is a sign of strength. Consider consulting a licensed professional like the ones from Andyou to help guide you to preventing any underlying symptoms.

Finding What Works for You

Masturbating before bed is a personal choice. It can help you relax, sleep better, and understand your body—if done mindfully. Like anything related to sex, the key is balance, awareness, and openness. Whether you’re dealing with stress, exploring your sexuality, or trying to sleep more soundly, remember that it’s okay to take care of yourself. You deserve rest, comfort, and pleasure—without shame.